- Why are some people effortlessly popular and well liked? By contrast, other people, no matter how hard they try, never seem to be able to gain the same trust and respect. Well this is true... even if we may not like to admit it, is the fact that most people secretly crave the respect and admiration of other people. These are some factors which can lead to a natural popularity and I would like to share to you guys WAY TO BE FAMOUS!!! enjoy ;)
1. Don’t Try to Be Famous.
- It is a big mistake to try and become popular. When we
seek to impress others and amazed them, it inevitably encourages us to offer
false flattery and think about what they want us to do and say. When we behave
like this we will hide our real self and live as a person that not YOU. This kind of behaviour may temporarily impress some people, but, in the long term it is not sustainable and exhausted. We have to base friendship on being our natural self, and avoid extravagant attempts to rise in other people’s esteem. Do you agreed there's MORE... :)
2.Share
- Sharing is the most basic skill that we learn start as
we are still children from the time we were born. But I believe sharing goes
far beyond just help and take turns, or let someone else go down the slide.
Does you know how to share a compliment? Complimenting people is a lost art
and, sadly, not something that comes naturally. Our society today is all about "me, me, me." People receive their validation when the focus is turned to them. Instead of closing one eye to that self-centred behaviour, we need to immediately find something about someone, and encourage them to vocalise that praise. I encourage YOU to give five compliments every day, and I assure you it will become habit. And benefit you
3. Be Your self.
- It is a strain pretending to be someone you are not. This will make you feel tired and exhausted. When we seek to please others expectations there is an insincerity in our thought and actions, – people can soon see through this. There are not stupid. If we learn to be content with who we are, we allow our natural spontaneity to come to the fore and become who you are… this is what will naturally attract other people.
4. Forgive people easily
- Learn to be magnanimous in your dealings with other
people, forget small mistakes, but appreciate the positive contributions that
other people make. This is one of the most important factors in determining how
people appreciate us.If we are always judging others with our critical mind, people will naturally feel slighted. If we go out of our way to appreciate the good qualities of others, then you will become famous.
5. First MOVE
- I have to share to you
guys my personal experience that may sound funny. My grandmother is the best
teacher I know -- both in the classroom and in life. I vividly remember getting
ready to enter kindergarten and worrying out loud to my grandmother about not
having any friends. Her reply was so simple, but so profound.She said, "All you have to do is walk up to someone and say 'Hi! My name is KElVIN. What's your name? Do you want to be friends?" I did. And it worked! While that may seem like an unimportant, trivial conversation, she provided me with an invaluable script; a couple easy sentences that would pave the way for me to forge friendships. We need to make the first move.
6. Reduce Your Ego.
- Do you seek to impress people, through appearing to be
wise, and to drop names and important achievements into the conversation? When
you magnify your ego, you only increase your popularity with yourself. If you
can work without demand for outer recognition and praise, people will warm to
your natural humility. Let actions speak louder words; if you do good things, there is no need to act as your own self publicist – you’re not a politician standing for an election. (It is interesting that politicians are very rarely popular, despite the fact they spend most of their lives trying their hardest to court popularity). I found out this is very true and interesting in http://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/7-secrets-of-being-popular.html you guys can have a look ;)
7. Follow Your ideals quietly.
- People look up to those who have a solid character with the
attributes of honesty, kindness, strength and humility. But, at the same time
these are ideals to be lived and not talked about. Quite often we see some
people talking about how others should live a good life. Yet these proud
moralists, may be better advised to concentrate on their own conduct before
lecturing others. The secret of popularity here is to be honest and self giving without the necessity of correcting others. The most powerful way is to merely lead by example; if others follow, fine; if not that is fine as well. I have a story to tell you guys… there is a bear who likes to lecture his friends how to catch and position yourself to catch the biggest fish. But he never and never has been before catch a big fish. So slowly his friend doesn’t believe what Bun said ;< sound sad but it is true in real life.
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